Trauma is a powerful word that for some may imply a major catastrophic scale event. However, any event that leaves an emotional scar on our soul can be considered traumatic. Thinking back to our childhood I would bet that you could recall minor events that at the time felt both very big and very wounding. The definition of trauma is personal and subjective and event that may be profoundly painful for one, may go unnoticed for another. In a way, trauma is in the eye of the beholder.
LGBT community, including gay men and women, has been disproportionally more likely to be the target of bullying, abuse, violence, rejection, discrimination and ridicule. Many of us experienced these occurrences first hand and often, these events leave painful long-lasting marks on our psyche. Many of us learn to accept these scars as an inevitable part of being gay, bi, or transgender, and carry on, dragging the baggage of the past traumas with us. Unfortunately, these shadows of the past drain the color out of our life experience, painting it with shades of fear, pain and hurt.
Often we resign our power to change our experience with an attitude of – You cannot change the past. Even among therapists there is the unspoken consensus that trauma can be managed, but cannot be healed; that one can overcome the victimhood and become a survivor, but can never leave the trauma behind altogether. I am here to assure you – this is not true. What makes any event into a trauma is the powerful charge of unresolved negative emotions associated with the traumatic event. What if I told you that regardless of how horrific the event was, without the charge of anger, fear, guilt, shame and hurt accompanying the memory of this event, the event itself is just a memory that can remain archived in the annals of your mind just like any other memory, without disrupting your current wellbeing? Without the charge of unresolved negative emotions the trauma becomes powerless over you and you regain the power over your life.
How can we resolve trauma?
In my Los Angeles clinic I have developed a unique 3 phase A-R-C psychotherapy system to create rapid and profound transformation within your life experience. Here is the 3-step A-R-C therapy approach:
A wareness – During the first Power-Step of psychotherapy we will evaluate all aspects of your life that brought you to where you are right now, including the traumatic events and their context. It is during this step that we also clearly define the ultimate goals for our work together, as well as the evidence procedure, which will show us that our work has been a total success. The Awareness Power-Step is a crucial step that identifies both the problem and the solution.
R elease – In the second Power-Step of our therapy we will use advanced mind-technology, such as Neuro-Linguistic-Programming (NLP) and elements of hypnotherapy, to help you release the emotional charge associated with the traumatic events as well as the limiting beliefs that these events might have created in your mind. Using NLP and elements of hypnotherapy we will let go of unresolved anger, sadness, fear, guilt, shame and hurt. We will also release limiting decisions and old beliefs about yourself, others, and the world, and replace these with empowering beliefs to allow you to live your best life.
C o-Creation – The third and final Power-Step of psychotherapy is designed to provide new tools and resources to solidify your gains and establish your life trajectory toward your heart’s desires. During this step we create a sound and clear vision of your ideal life, and set you on the path of joy, purpose and fulfillment.
Is psychotherapy for me?
In my Los Angeles clinic I have the honor of working with beautifully diverse Los Angeles’ LGBT community, and at times my clients come in while they are still on the fence about therapy, questioning whether therapy is for them. This is a valid concern. Every time we make a strong commitment to anything, we want to know that our time, energy and resources are allocated wisely. I am occasionally asked whether as a therapist I can guarantee results, and how one knows whether psychotherapy is the right choice for them. This is an important question to answer. On my part I can absolutely guarantee that each of my clients receives my total commitment, knowledge, expertise and support. I can also guarantee that if my total commitment to your success is met with your absolute commitment to yourself, you will achieve incredible results.
There are Three key pre-requisites for your success. Three attitudes you have to adopt in the process of us working together in order to transform your life experience:
1. I am 100% responsible and life is my making.
2. I am willing to let go of the old baggage, including resentments, anger, grief, beliefs etc.
3. I am fully committed to making all of the necessary changes to achieve my heart’s desires.
This mindset of 100% commitment to your own success and wellbeing is the key component of our work. From my experience, all of my psychotherapy clients who showed up with total commitment to themselves, achieved remarkable life-changing results during our work together.
In case you are not there yet, and find yourself still a bit on the fence about therapy and change, you are not alone. Pick up the phone and give me a call. Perhaps after talking to me you will be able to make the best decision for you at this time. Your happiness and wellbeing are too important to wait.